It’s been a story I’ve told myself over and over – and over. No one cares about me. They never have and never will. So why should I care about anyone else? Then it hit me – a bolt of truth. The thoughts came: I’ve always held the belief that no one cares about me and therefore I am justified… Read more »
Learning how to recover from emotional abuse takes a tremendous amount of inner strength – more than people who’ve never suffered emotional abuse can imagine.
The kind of emotional abuse we’re talking about here was experienced through the eyes, ears, and sensations of an innocent child.
Over time, it’s easy to forget how deep the pain cut; how shocking it was to a child’s understanding. It is this original, traumatic pain that gets buried. This is the pain that flashes back once we’re adults, hijacking our mind and body.
The origin of the pain and the sheer velocity and force with which it returns represents a replay of the original shock. Depending on the severity, it can stop you in your tracks.
This formula shows how to recover from emotional abuse
Here’s the scenario. Imagine that you’ve got a plethora of painful memories stored in some dark corner of your brain. As long as they remain in their original state – frozen in time – they will come back to haunt you whenever they’re triggered.
To recover, both your mind and body must learn that these memories and everything they represent is over. Not theoretically over. Over and done with completely!
You will know when your mind and body know this because you will no longer experience the residual stress that comes from these memories in their raw, unprocessed form.
Essentially, we want to re-experience the overwhelming trauma (trauma that was experienced as overwhelming at the time) while maintaining our present, adult mind. When you re-experience the memory without becoming overwhelmed, your perspective changes. The mind and body update a bit and now you know it’s over.
Considered part of positive psychology, the ABCDE Method is a systematic way to handle adversity and solve problems. Be Alive to your Problem First, wake up! Be alive to your problem on the inside and out. Do NOT resist your problem by denying it or wishing it weren’t so. It is so! Wake up! Deep breath! Be alive to the… Read more »